It’s Okay to not be Okay: Four Tips for Self-Reflection and Self-Care

Oct 30, 2024

October was mental health awareness month, and my mental health is at its lowest for the year. I wanted this article to be a bit more personal because if you're reading this and you're feeling a little hopeless, I want you to know, you're not alone. Acknowledging our emotions and our psychological well-being is vital, as it’s a part of what connects us as human beings. It’s important to recognize that everyone experiences difficult moments; it’s all part of being human. It is unfortunate that the stigma of seeking support still exists. But I’m here to remind you that there is incredible strength in asking for help. Whether it’s confiding in a trusted friend or seeking professional assistance, prioritising your mental well-being is essential.

As we approach the end of Mental Health Awareness Month, here are four tips I plan to incorporate into my routine that may also help you, whether you’re having a bit of a hard time or you’re simply seeking a mental refresh:

1. Acknowledge your Feelings:

Don’t attempt to repress your emotions in the hopes that they will go away. It’s okay to not be okay. Allow yourself to feel what you’re feeling—whether it’s sadness, frustration, or confusion. These emotions are valid and part of being human. Instead of pushing your feelings aside, take a moment to sit with them. Reflect on what might be causing these emotions and consider journaling or talking to someone you trust. This can act as a sound board to help you make sense of or accept your feelings. Remember, acknowledging how you feel is is not a sign of weakness; it’s a powerful step toward healing and understanding yourself better.

2. Be Patient with Yourself:

Instead of focusing on what you haven’t achieved, reflect on all that you have accomplished. Nobody’s journey is easy and we each face our own difficulties. Allow yourself to move at your own pace, and do not compare yourself to others. Everyone has a unique path, with different struggles and timelines. Embrace where you are in your journey, and trust that each step—no matter how small—contributes to your overall progress.

3. Take a Step Back:

Prioritise urgent tasks and let go of the rest. Create a daily or weekly to-do list to organise your responsibilities and feel less overwhelmed. By breaking your responsibilities into manageable pieces, you can focus on one thing at a time. This not only helps reduce anxiety but also gives you a sense of accomplishment as you check off completed tasks. Remember, it’s okay to put less important tasks on hold; your well-being should always come first.

4. Rest and Just-Be:

Ensure you’re getting enough sleep and taking time for self-care. Establish a calming bedtime routine and explore relaxation techniques like meditation or deep breathing. Remember, self-care isn’t selfish; it’s essential for your overall health. Take the time to not only rest your body, but your mind too. Prioritising rest allows your body and mind to recharge, thus reducing your levels of stress and enhancing your overall well-being. Don’t hesitate to take time for yourself—you deserve it!

Remember, be kind to yourself. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health. If you feel overwhelmed or stuck, that’s fine. Acknowledge how you feel without judgement and remind yourself of your strength. Slowly but surely, you will find your way forward. Below are some resources for mental health support.

SADAG Maybelline BraveTogether WhatsApp Number (8am-5pm): 087 163 2030

Cipla Mental Health 24 Hour Toll Free Helpline: 0800 456 789

Find more on SADAG’s Website or visit LifeLine to chat to a counsellor online.